We are all works in progress. C’est la vie. That's the fun in life -- we’re always evolving and growing as people. It’s a series of ups and downs and the way that we see ourselves plays an integral role in our quality of life.
So, what does it mean to make confidence your ritual? In short, it means two things: one, to break negative habits and thought patterns, and two, to build healthy habits that help you become a better version of yourself. Confidence is something that you have to actively work for, and as with anything else you work for in life, consistency is key -- thus, creating a habit out of things that will make you feel like a better person will lead to you becoming a more confident person in the long run.
The first step is to reflect on how your daily activities make you feel. This allows you to become more self-aware, which is absolutely integral in your journey towards confidence. Be honest with yourself about how certain activities make you feel after you do them. For example, if you often find yourself feeling drained after scrolling Instagram first thing in the morning, actively break out of that habit. Maybe put your phone across the room from your bed so it becomes physically more difficult to do so. By the time you walk over to your phone, you would have had more time to decide not to do so. On the other hand, if you know that waking up fifteen minutes early everyday to integrate a short yoga practice puts you in the right mindset to tackle your day, then make it your priority in the morning. Set an alarm for your practice, and treat it like any other event you have scheduled in your calendar.
Another thing you can actively do to become more confident, is to cut out the negative self talk. Your thoughts can also be habits, not only your actions, and although negative self talk may seem harmless, it can quickly and subconsciously grow to affect the way you see yourself. Commit to only talking to yourself as if you are your own best friend. Would you tell your best friend that she’s not good enough, or that she looks ugly today? If you wouldn’t tell your best friend that, don’t tell yourself that.
By creating these habits in our lives, we are making confidence our ritual. This is genuine self-care, and it’s not always pretty or easy, but if it were easy, everyone would be thriving all the time. By actively choosing to cut out the bad and integrate more good, we are prioritizing ourselves and our mental health. Let’s all work on our mindsets babes!